LADIES.... the most important relationship you have is the one you have with yourself, periodt!
We are not born with the feeling of being confident. Confidence has to be built. For some of us, it sounds easier said than done. Given the fact that there are social media, opinionated people and many other distractions, it's understandable why you feel like you can’t reach the level of confidence you wish you were at, but it’s not impossible. Building self-confidence is not an overnight fix, it is a process.
Here are a few things we believe will boost your self-confidence:
- First and foremost, start replacing your self-critical thoughts into self-loving comments. We tend to bash ourselves more than we show ourselves appreciation. Nothing is wrong with looking into the mirror daily and telling yourself, “ I love you.” Negative thoughts keep us in the past, which causes us to repeat the same feelings. Realizing you are not your thoughts gives you the ability to change them. When you look into the mirror and speak positive affirmations about yourself, you redirect your thoughts into the present moment. Allowing yourself to experience new and positive feelings.
- When is the last time you took yourself out or dressed to impress yourself? Hopefully, everyone is treating themselves but if not, why not start now! When we forget to cater to ourselves we start to judge what we see in the mirror. The easiest fix for that is to not slack on your self-care routine. Pamper yourself, go out to eat or get a Ju’Nae Fit set! Do things you like to do, that you know will make you your happiest. One thing that makes me happy is getting a good workout in. You can take care of yourself without spending a dime! The inside is just as important as your outside.
- Forget your weaknesses and focus on your strengths. We are always focused on what we’re doing wrong and we never focus on what we’re doing right. Look at the person you look up to. The difference between you and them is that they locked in on their strengths and mastered them. When you focus on your strengths, life becomes easier. You are doing something you’re naturally good at so you will accomplish your goals at a quicker pace. Worrying about things you can’t do is a waste of time and energy. It will also lead to feeling like a failure. When you do things you’re good at repeatedly, it will result in higher confidence.
- Lastly, have you ever heard of the saying, “fake it until you make it?” That phrase applies here too. After countless times of pretending like you are as confident as you tell other people, your mind will finally believe it. You will essentially become the person you believe you deserve to be. I know this from experience.